The Time is Now. A New You. A Lasting Change.

In each session, you’ll receive an instructional video from experienced, expert psychotherapeutic psychologist, Shane Lutkin. Using thoughtful worksheets, grounded in trusted psychological frameworks, designed to fit real life for the long term.

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Tried, tested and proven, self-help emotional support

Emotionalskills Online is built on years of experience helping people. We took this method from the therapy room to a self-guided programme. Understand why you feel the way you do and how you can move forward with more clarity, confidence and emotional strength.

The Emotionalskills programmes were created in a therapeutic setting and designed to support the whole person by exploring:

  • Personal background and life experiences

  • Upbringing, culture and social influences

  • Learned beliefs and behavioural patterns

  • Understanding your innate, inherited tendencies and how they effect your emotional self

By gently uncovering these influences and combining them with some psycho-education and practical tools, we help people build emotional intelligence, develop personal insight, resilience and a more meaningful life.

Structured, therapist-informed programmes, designed to be used independently, in your own space and time.

Whether you’re managing anxiety, low mood, irritation, low esteem, stress, burnout or lack of willpower or perhaps you just want to understand yourself better. You may just want to become more learned with regards to the theory of personality and how your mind works. ESO provides flexible, step-by-step emotional guidance backed by years of clinical practice.

No waiting. No appointments. Just lasting support, when and how you need it or for just £5 per session.

“In a review of 100 clients who completed the face-to-face programmes, over 90% said it helped them manage their emotions and psychological struggles more effectively.”

Start with Session One, free for 7 days.

The EmotionalSkills Online journey begins with What’s Wrong With Me?, a guided discovery session that helps you assess what’s impacting your emotional balance. Begin with a 7-day free trial and experience the first step before continuing with your chosen course.

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Our Method: Self-Guided Psychotherapy

“I struggled badly for over ten years with my mental health. Eventually, I sorted myself out and became my own therapist. I became my own life coach. I became my own person.” Shane Lutkin

A gentle approach, grounded in real psychology.

At the heart of Emotionalskills Online is a proven methodology which is based on structured, therapist-informed support that’s easy to use and powerful over time.

Here’s how we do it:

1. Based on Proven Psychological Theories and Made for Real Life

Each session draws on trusted, research-based therapeutic frameworks, translated into plain language and simple tools you can use right away:

  • Person-Centred Therapy: A compassionate, open approach that helps you explore your emotions and experiences at your own pace.

  • Self-Awareness: Self-exploration to understand and accept your true self.

  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT): Learn how to spot unhelpful thought patterns and behaviours and shift them gently.

  • Mindfulness-Based Therapy: Learn how to stay grounded, have a contemplative thought process, discover your felt sense and enjoy experiences in the present.

  • Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT): Learn to accept difficult feelings and reconnect with resilience with what matters to you.

  • Positive Psychology & Self-Compassion: Build confidence, self-worth and emotional balance by starting where you are emotionally.

  • Changing Habits: Learn the habit of changing habits and applying this to the new positive habits you want.

  • Tactics & Techniques: Monitor and regulate your emotions with methods designed for you.

These approaches are woven into short video sessions and practical worksheets, bringing real therapeutic insights into your everyday life.

2. A 6-Step Rhythm

This isn’t a programme to just “get through.” It’s a rhythm to learn by and grow with, session by session:

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1. Understand Yourself

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2. Envision Your Future

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3. Gain Insight

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4. Grow Your Skills

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5. Change Your Habits

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6. Be Your True Self

This step-by-step format creates a natural loop between understanding and action, both essential for emotional growth and behavioural change.

3. Built for Everyday Life

We know that life can be busy, messy, unpredictable and can be expensive. These sessions are designed to fit into your lifestyle.

  • Clear, calming content with no jargon and no overwhelm

  • Short-form learning that fits into real-life situations

  • Mobile-ready access so you can check in anywhere

  • Go at your own pace, sessions can be completed and revisited any time

  • Kind to you pocket at just £5 per session.

Whether you’re in a quiet moment or a difficult one, ESO is there to guide you, gently and consistently.

ESO is ideal for:

  • Anyone feeling stuck, unheard or emotionally off-balance

  • Those unsure about therapy or not ready for one-to-one sessions

  • People who want long-term tools to support everyday wellbeing and personal growth

  • Those of us with a limited budget

  • People who are interested in how the mind works

  • People who do not want to join a waiting list

  • Those of us who prefer to tackle their own issues

  • A private person who doesn’t want to be judged or encounter stigma

If you’d like to experience how ESO works before enrolling, begin with Discovery Session One. Available free for a 7-day period.

Start Your Journey

This is self-guided therapy. It’s not a quick fix. It’s a real, therapist-informed path that will improve your mental health for the long term.

Looking for something more specific?

Each ESO Deep Dive focuses on one key challenge, helping you understand what’s really going on beneath the surface. Start with the Discovery Session What’s Wrong With Me? and move through a clear 10-session pathway designed to help you create steady, practical change.

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What You’ll Experience & Gain

A step-by-step journey to positive change, with clarity, calm and emotional strength.

The Complete Programme was created for people who want to develop better self-regulation and emotional personal growth for the long term. Each session offers constructive, educational and supportive tools you can use in real life, for the whole of your life.

Here’s what each session gives you:

  • A short, therapist-informed video session (real-life, not A.I. generated)

  • Real-world psychological insights in manageable steps

  • Guided worksheets to help you reflect and develop your own supportive tools

  • Exercises you can pause, replay or revisit anytime confidentially

Here’s what builds over time:

  • A deep self-awareness and understanding

  • A calmer, more grounded emotional baseline

  • Clarity about your needs, issues and habits

  • Confidence in how you respond to life and relationships

  • More emotional resilience and less daily overwhelm

  • A sense of control over your growth, without pressure to perform

  • Lasting guidance you can return to again and again

  • A bank of emotional knowledge and understanding

  • A unique, contented balance

What’s Inside: Themes & Example Sessions

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    Grounding & Calm

    Feel stuck in life and want to manage your emotions more calmly?

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    Emotional Tactics & Techniques

    Do you want structured emotional tools that fits into your daily life?

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    Therapy you can enjoy

    Looking for something flexible, private and with no pressure of judgement?

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    Relationships & Communication

    Are you ready to conect with yourself or someone else calmly, gently and on your own terms?

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    Mindfulness & Space

    Do you want to slow down and tune in to yourself? Easing psychological tensions and pressures.

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    Become your own Therapist

    Have you tried traditional therapy, self-help books or advice and still feel confused and troubled?

Here’s a glimpse into what the ESO Complete Programme feels like. These three sessions reflect the heart of the journey, designed to help you navigate life’s challenges and grow with confidence. Each one varies in length and encourages you to pause, reflect and consider how you can move forward.

Week 1: What’s Wrong With Me?
Start by exploring the emotional patterns and triggers shaping your everyday experience. This session builds foundational self-awareness in a safe, non-judgemental way.

Week 8: Human Emotions - Part 1 How do you develop a feelings or emotions vocabulary? This session also asks you to consider how you feel about yourself and how you feel others may feel about you.

Week 11: Circles of Your Mind
Here, we look ahead to the version of you that feels possible, while also acknowledging the parts that feel troubled. We explore how life might feel as you grow, how others may respond and what could open up as these shifts begin to settle.

ESO is not a replacement for professional mental health treatment for people currently experiencing:

  • Severe psychiatric conditions (e.g. schizophrenia, dissociative disorders)

  • People with serious suicidal intentions

  • Major depressive disorder with psychosis

  • Trauma-related disorders (e.g. complex PTSD) requiring specialist or crisis support

These situations require specific care and support and we encourage you to contact your GP first.

This course may be a helpful companion in the future for long term mental wellbeing.

Who this is not for (right now):

If at any point you wish to arrange face-to-face sessions with a psychotherapist, please connect with the Emotionalskills team on email at contact@emotionalskillsonline.com